I happen read a blog from someone so close to my heart. She entitled her piece, "How to mend a broken heart." The blog talked about coping up strategies and ways how to make us feel better in some ways or another and all about the do's and don't's that we have to encounter..
Now I just wonder more.. Can we really mend our broken hearts? When can we say our hearts are already okay? Like can we put back all the broken pieces and make it whole again? If so, will its scars ever fade?
It is just that I know, once it is broken and torn, like a very fragile glass, no matter how we try to put it back together, never will it be the same beautiful wine glass it was before. Like stain in our favorite shirts, or like a crack in a porcelain, or a stitch in our dress, or a crumpled paper.. It will never look like the way it used to be, why? Because a part of it is already lost, and forever it will be. We must face the truth that we'll never have it back. Someday, we may find someone or meet someone whom we'd say once more "complete" our lives, but I tell you, that will be a lot different than what we have now, than what we had before these stupid heart got torn. The feeling may be so intense or you'll feel more love towards the new one, but that love you have given to that person who left you for some other reasons now will never be erased from your system. I swear, that's so true. Why? It is because you wholeheartedly given a part of yourself, of your heart to that person. No one pushed you through it, you've given that piece to that person with all of you, freely and with open arms. And now, it belongs to that person anymore, it is not yours, no more.
So I guess, we can never mend our broken hearts or make ourselves whole again. With all our efforts to make ourselves numb with the pain it brings us every waking time of our lives, in time we just learn to get used to it that we aren't hurt anymore. And not just getting used to it. But learning to accept it all. And that's the hardest part that we have to go through.
It's all about ACCEPTANCE.
Accepting the bitter fact that that person you've cried for every night just doesn't meant for you.
Accepting the sad truth that that person is not happy with you nor you, with him.
Accepting the reality that you can never have him back, no matter what you do.
Accepting that person as he has hurt you, and you had hurt him as well.
Accepting all the memories, happy or sad, that had kept haunting you.
Accepting that as human as we are, we all went through this trial and triumph.
...and most of all,
Accepting yourself.
Forgiving yourself.
Respecting yourself.
Loving yourself, all of you.
And with that, we'll be able to take one step at a time and move on.
And then we can say, I am whole again.
>>angeL
Now I just wonder more.. Can we really mend our broken hearts? When can we say our hearts are already okay? Like can we put back all the broken pieces and make it whole again? If so, will its scars ever fade?
It is just that I know, once it is broken and torn, like a very fragile glass, no matter how we try to put it back together, never will it be the same beautiful wine glass it was before. Like stain in our favorite shirts, or like a crack in a porcelain, or a stitch in our dress, or a crumpled paper.. It will never look like the way it used to be, why? Because a part of it is already lost, and forever it will be. We must face the truth that we'll never have it back. Someday, we may find someone or meet someone whom we'd say once more "complete" our lives, but I tell you, that will be a lot different than what we have now, than what we had before these stupid heart got torn. The feeling may be so intense or you'll feel more love towards the new one, but that love you have given to that person who left you for some other reasons now will never be erased from your system. I swear, that's so true. Why? It is because you wholeheartedly given a part of yourself, of your heart to that person. No one pushed you through it, you've given that piece to that person with all of you, freely and with open arms. And now, it belongs to that person anymore, it is not yours, no more.
So I guess, we can never mend our broken hearts or make ourselves whole again. With all our efforts to make ourselves numb with the pain it brings us every waking time of our lives, in time we just learn to get used to it that we aren't hurt anymore. And not just getting used to it. But learning to accept it all. And that's the hardest part that we have to go through.
It's all about ACCEPTANCE.
Accepting the bitter fact that that person you've cried for every night just doesn't meant for you.
Accepting the sad truth that that person is not happy with you nor you, with him.
Accepting the reality that you can never have him back, no matter what you do.
Accepting that person as he has hurt you, and you had hurt him as well.
Accepting all the memories, happy or sad, that had kept haunting you.
Accepting that as human as we are, we all went through this trial and triumph.
...and most of all,
Accepting yourself.
Forgiving yourself.
Respecting yourself.
Loving yourself, all of you.
And with that, we'll be able to take one step at a time and move on.
And then we can say, I am whole again.
>>angeL
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